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Hi Conrad,
Thank you for reaching out through the forum. We have taken some time to consider your situation and here are a few thoughts.
It sounds as though your daughters are demonstrating a need to feel connected to their birth parents and we know that these connections when supported and safe for adoptees can help them develop a strong healthy identity. It is great that your daughters have some connections with some family members but we understand the safety concerns around your situation.
It is excellent that your girls are receiving supports including therapy with a Psychologist and it is good that you have explored this option of connection with the psychologist. At this time it seems as though the psychologist is not recommending contact. It may be worthwhile for you to explore another form of communication agreement that many provinces have known as a semi-open adoption. A semi-open adoption is sharing non direct contact between birth family and the adoptive family. In these situations the adoptive family can write a letter and give it to the Ministry who will then review it for confidentiality concerns and pass it along to birth family. Then if birth family would like to respond they go through the same process. This form of communication could help to ease some of the safety concerns you have for your daughters while still allowing them to safely connect. This is something you can go over with your psychologist to see if this form of communication may be a good compromise. We encourage you to strongly consider the advise of this Psychologist or other processionals you have supporting you and your girls.
If a semi-open adoption agreement is something you would like to peruse you can register with the Provincial Director of British Columbia Ministry to indicate your interest in adjusting the communication agreement you already had in place.
By exploring this communication arrangement with the ministry of B.C, you communicate to the girls that you understand and care about their desire for connection and that you are trying to assist them to do it in a safe manner. Safety and health is most important at this stage in their lives.
Other resources to explore: In Saskatchewan their is a organization called Saskatchewan Youth in Care and Custody Network (SYCCN). It may be a place for your girls to connect with other youth in similar situations. The program Youth Speak Out is being held at this organization an it is a program that helps youth to be heard. British Columbia also has a number of virtual programs you can explore that my benefit you and your girls.
If you have any other questions or would like to connect with someone about this situation to further discuss please feel free to reach out to our office!
Mackenzie & Leah
Hi Kelly!
If you were adopted within the province of Saskatchewan then you will need to access Post-Adoption Services within the Ministry of Social Services . You can either call them or fill out an online form to request your records. The type of information you may be able to get includes things like your birth registration and adoption order. I put the link below for more information!
The Evermore Centre has resources within our library that include valuable information on search, reunion and navigating relationships. Additionally, we are developing an adoptee support group and will be sharing more information about it soon! We also have a Community Adoption Resource list of volunteers that includes adoptees who are open to connecting with other adoptees and share their experience.
Hi Ronda,
Yes you are able to start any topics that you find are relevant and put them under the corresponding audience or group. If you wish to make a topic under adoptive parents for example you would click that forum, scroll down and you will see a box to enter the topic title and description!
Thanks,
Kelsey
